I believe in unconditional love. Because of that, I believe in heartbreak. I believe that heartbreak teaches us the strongest lessons in life. I believe we learn to love harder through heartbreak, and we learn more about our God when we find ourselves broken.

 

How do we go from thinking that our love for a person is unconditional and then we’re able to put an expiration date on the unconditional part?

 

“I’ve waited too long and they obviously don’t love me. Guess I’ll just move on.”

 

What would happen if that’s what Jesus did?

 

I mean… that should scare every person who hears this.

 

“God, they aren’t going to seek me first. They’re going to hurt me. I can’t die for them”

“well do you love them?” “

“Of course I love them but they’re going to hurt me.”

 

I think Jesus suffered through the most painful heart break of all. He died for all of us. He literally took on the heart break and pain and anger and anxiety and depression and everything that we’re stuck feeling like we can’t get rid of today. He took on all of that and literally gave his life to protect us.

 

Would you give your life for someone?

 

And he still doesn’t want us to hurt. He can track us anywhere and he doesn’t decide to give up. He can see every mistake we make, every tear we shed, and every time we decide we can’t do it. Could you imagine if the one you allowed to hold your heart could see all of that? It would hurt.

 

It hurts Him worst.

 

We cling to the hope of being able to forget the one who held our heart, forgetting that they are the one who hurt it. Jesus died for that heart break, Do you think it feels good to him when we’re laying in bed crying and saying that we can’t move on without a human? That’s crazy. He laid on a cross crying and refusing to move on without any of us. He died on a cross to save all of us.

 

Jesus doesn’t hang out in Heaven with God and all his friends trying to laugh again and waiting for the day that he’s able to move on without one of us. That’s unconditional. Because the second we come running, he’ll be there with open arms.

 

If the one who hurt us called us up and came running towards us, would we do the same as Jesus? I’d like to think so. But the truth is, is that we’re hurt and we’re not going to so easily forgive and forget. We’d say, “we need to talk about this.” We’d say, “I’m afraid it’s too late.” We’d play stupid games and we’d want them to hurt just for a little bit. We’d want them to beg for just a little bit.

 

Why?

 

If we are supposed to strive to be Christ-like, then why are we told to not accept people. Why are we told to not be there for the ones who hurt us? Why are we taught to remember all the pain someone caused us? Why are we warned by every other person to be careful with who we trust and who we care for? Why are we taught to cry out to God when we’re hurting but forget that he’s the one who brings us to the good place when we’re there?

 

If we’re supposed to strive for unconditional love, then why are we a conditional group of people? Maybe this is what I needed to learn when my heart broke. Maybe this is what I was supposed to be taught through all the pain that I’ve been feeling.

 

I’m pursuing unconditional love. Clinging onto hope is pointless when the one who holds our future already knows how the story plays out. Pursue unconditional love and love with your whole heart. Even if you end up hurt, you also end up blessed because you were one of the lucky few who got the tiniest glimpse into the love that Jesus shows us every day.